Love is a choice - Dr. Robert Hemfelt, Dr. Frank Minirth, Dr. Paul Meier

What can you do when your own love hurts you?

The dependent deals with the addiction. Around him or her stands a circle - parents, children, husband or wife - whose lives are profoundly affected by their relationship to the addict. They are the 'co-dependents'. One in four people may suffer from co-dependency. 

The destructive relationships in co-dependency echo down the generations. The daughter of an alcoholic will frequently marry an alcoholic. The son of an autocrat may demand unquestioning obedience from his children. The ghosts of the past are calling the shots.

Yet recovery is possible. As we begin to understand the hunger for acceptance - the 'love-hunger' - that each of us carries, we can discover a love beyond human reason. God's unconditional acceptance, the author insist, can provide the resources to break the cycle of addictive relationships. 

It can set us free to choose how we love.